I’m Resisting By Reducing My Fees

I am reeling as I know many of you are from the vitriol and lack of concern for vulnerable populations this administration has shown. I’ve felt so many things over the last few months. I think the most painful has been a sense of helplessness.   But, to paraphrase Jefferson Smith, helplessness is just another […] Read more »

When You Feel Alone

We’re facing a new chapter in this country and many of us are feeling less safe, less supported and more fearful. Unfortunately, this external threat magnifies the pain and vulnerability that go along with any internal struggle we may be facing. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, relationship troubles, parenting challenges, gender […] Read more »

On Emotional Boundaries and Gated Communities

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Emotional boundaries are limits that keep us safe. They represent the bottom line of what we will and will not accept or do.   Healthy emotional boundaries keep us mindful of our responsibility to ourselves and keep us from feeling responsible for others’ feelings.   They let us know who we should let in (and […] Read more »

Balancing the Wheel of Life

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Know yourself to improve yourself. ~Auguste Comte Too often we find ourselves unhappy with an area of our lives but unsure of how to improve it. Or maybe we have some ideas, but implementing them feels overwhelming. The Wheel of Life can help. It is a coaching tool for understanding which areas of your life […] Read more »

Small Changes Lasting Results

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People think that you have to do something huge, like go to Africa and build a school, but you can make a small change in a day. If you change Wednesday, then you change Thursday. Pretty soon it’s a week, then a month, then a year. It’s bite-size, as opposed to feeling like you have […] Read more »

The Art of Reappearing

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I stand here waiting. To disappear or sing. ~Francesca Lia Block There’s a tragic trick that some of us mastered as children. We learned to disappear. We made ourselves, our feelings, our needs and our desires invisible  to save ourselves. We did it to keep peace in the home and to make ourselves less of […] Read more »

The Importance of Insight

He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. ~Lao Tzu I worked with a woman who struggled to create a close relationship with her partner. She grew up with a single mom and little contact with her father. She felt neglected and alone as a child. She vowed that as an […] Read more »

Let in the Light

Myths which are believed in tend to become true. ~George Orwell Insight shines light on why we do what we do. If you have ever felt stuck, or that what you want is just out of reach, insight can help. We often have no problem thinking of what we want to be different in our […] Read more »

Boundaries and Intimacy

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -~Sam Keen The Webster dictionary defines boundaries as “A line that marks the limits of an area.” Boundaries are limits. But in relationships boundaries set you free. Emotional boundaries define what we need for ourselves and […] Read more »