The Pain Trap

Emotional wounds can consume us when we withhold the nurturing they require. Just like physical wounds, emotional wounds need our attention. Without proper care we can experience a kind of emotional infection. Like an infection, the trauma we’ve experienced spreads into other areas of our lives. Research shows that people who’ve processed the trauma they’ve […] Read more »

A Simple Guide to Forgiveness

“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” -Confucius Forgiving others does more for us than it does for the person who has wronged us. Until we forgive them we are bound to them. We give them power over our lives, we allow them to influence who we are and the choices […] Read more »

What Giving Does for Us

“In giving you are throwing a bridge across the chasm of your solitude.” Antoine de Sainte-Exupery The Benefits of Giving The holiday season is often thought of as the giving season, but finding opportunities to serve others year round can help us stay grounded, hopeful, optimistic and connected to others. Helping others not only feels […] Read more »

Challenging Fear

“He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg”. Chinese Proverb   Each of us has an inner voice that keeps us safe, sometimes too safe. This is the voice that heightens our awareness when we’re in a dangerous situation. It’s the same voice that increases our anxiety […] Read more »

Can This Relationship Be Saved?

This is the final post in the series, Toxic Relationships. Don’t miss parts one and two. Once you’ve determined you’re in a toxic relationship you can take steps to redefine it. It won’t be easy, changing the dynamic will require you to step outside your comfort zone. You will likely meet with some resistance. Becoming […] Read more »

Toxic Relationships

  This is the second in a series of posts on toxic relationships. Click here for part one.  Toxic relationships drain your resources. They cause you to doubt yourself, your choices and even you’re worth. Learning to identify toxic relationships is an important step toward protecting yourself from them. Is there someone in your life who. […] Read more »

On Trees and Toxic Relationships

This is the first post in a series on toxic relationships. Once, in a lush green forest, a young tree was befriended by a vine. The vine was friendly and helpful and the tree and vine soon became very close. The tree learned to rely on the vine, and before long, the vine and the […] Read more »

The Gift of Counseling

  Counseling is a powerful gift. It’s something we can do for ourselves to make our lives better, more joyful, more complete. I believe everyone can benefit from counseling. Over the years, counseling has been lumped in with the medical model and its emphasis on fixing what’s broken.  To me, counseling fits better within the […] Read more »