Boundaries and Intimacy

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -~Sam Keen The Webster dictionary defines boundaries as “A line that marks the limits of an area.” Boundaries are limits. But in relationships boundaries set you free. Emotional boundaries define what we need for ourselves and […] Read more »

Can This Relationship Be Saved?

This is the final post in the series, Toxic Relationships. Don’t miss parts one and two. Once you’ve determined you’re in a toxic relationship you can take steps to redefine it. It won’t be easy, changing the dynamic will require you to step outside your comfort zone. You will likely meet with some resistance. Becoming […] Read more »

Toxic Relationships

  This is the second in a series of posts on toxic relationships. Click here for part one.  Toxic relationships drain your resources. They cause you to doubt yourself, your choices and even you’re worth. Learning to identify toxic relationships is an important step toward protecting yourself from them. Is there someone in your life who. […] Read more »

On Trees and Toxic Relationships

This is the first post in a series on toxic relationships. Once, in a lush green forest, a young tree was befriended by a vine. The vine was friendly and helpful and the tree and vine soon became very close. The tree learned to rely on the vine, and before long, the vine and the […] Read more »

Couples Counseling for One

  If your relationship is struggling, couples counseling can help. A relationship therapist can help build a bridge between you and your partner, resolve critical issues and facilitate better communication. But what if your partner won’t go? Can your relationship benefit from couples counseling for one? Yes. Seeing a therapist alone to work on problems you […] Read more »

The Importance of Being Unavailable

My sister and I recently met for a play-date and the converson turned to her increasing stress as she prepares for the birth of her second child, manages her clients (she’s an attorney) and attempts to be present and enjoy her family. She talked about checking her email several times a day, taking business calls […] Read more »