How (And Why) to Listen Like a Therapist

Stories are the creative conversion of life itself into a more powerful, clearer, more meaningful experience. They are the currency of human contact. — Robert McKee Everyday, in my work, I have the honor of listening to the stories of others. And while the experience often provides a rich tapestry of understanding, acceptance and healing […] Read more »

The Pain Trap

Emotional wounds can consume us when we withhold the nurturing they require. Just like physical wounds, emotional wounds need our attention. Without proper care we can experience a kind of emotional infection. Like an infection, the trauma we’ve experienced spreads into other areas of our lives. Research shows that people who’ve processed the trauma they’ve […] Read more »

What Giving Does for Us

“In giving you are throwing a bridge across the chasm of your solitude.” Antoine de Sainte-Exupery The Benefits of Giving The holiday season is often thought of as the giving season, but finding opportunities to serve others year round can help us stay grounded, hopeful, optimistic and connected to others. Helping others not only feels […] Read more »

Challenging Fear

“He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg”. Chinese Proverb   Each of us has an inner voice that keeps us safe, sometimes too safe. This is the voice that heightens our awareness when we’re in a dangerous situation. It’s the same voice that increases our anxiety […] Read more »

The Gift of Counseling

  Counseling is a powerful gift. It’s something we can do for ourselves to make our lives better, more joyful, more complete. I believe everyone can benefit from counseling. Over the years, counseling has been lumped in with the medical model and its emphasis on fixing what’s broken.  To me, counseling fits better within the […] Read more »

(Don’t Try to) Feel Better

We want to feel happy and sometimes we do. But we feel many other things, too.  We feel angry, sad, frustrated, overwhelmed, envious or hurt. We may try to distract ourselves with food, alcohol, facebook or sex. We don’t like to be unhappy. It’s okay, we’re built that way. When we’re uncomfortable, we seek comfort, […] Read more »